Sometimes, the sane ones are the abusers to the people they claim are crazy.
I find that numerous people who are in a relationship with someone who is suffering from depression, BPD,etc. do many of these things. Society does many of these things to people who are sensitive, emotional, etc. I've seen people play the victim,use tunnel vision and gaslight the most.Society will use abusive tacits, the ones they are so against onto anyone whose emotions and personal feelings make them feel uncomfortable. I am putting these abusive tactics together for people for the person who may have BPD, or depression,etc whom this is being done to. Relationships and friendships are not perfect, but abuse is never okay. A huge example of these horrible tactics is when people think people who have BPD, or are not happy are abusive and psychopathic when then is not true. Psychopaths are psychopathic, people who suffer from BPD can feel empathy. It is usually the elite sane person who says these things about their ex, or narcissistic people who were "found out." These people play the victim and everyone believes them because they are so good at what they do. if you have a deep fear of abandonment and unstable emotions, imagine being around someone who is making them 100% worse and then YOU get blamed for being "crazy." That is not okay.
Although people who may "have" BPD and HPD do these things, remember, this page is about sanist abuse towards others, especially those who have BPD or HPD and even Dependent personality disorder.Although textbooks may state people who have BPD use these tactics to control their partners, I believe people who suffer from BPD more than I do a text book. Elists do these tactics to regain control and power because THEY deserve it while people with eccentric personalities are scared to be abandoned and alone. I have sympathy for people with BPD, but none for people who are elitists thinking they are better than others. People who have NPD are the ones with no empathy and no sympathy, not people with BPD.
Example: Self harm
An elitist will do it to get power over the victim because they enjoy it. they like knowing they can control the person's behavior by making the person feel sorry for them. They play the victim and by doing so get symapthy and attention and control THEY "deserve."
A BPD suffer may self harm to try to make the person feel sorry for them so that person will not leave. They need to have control like the narcissist except it is because they are afraid of the person leaving them,or not loving them anymore. They may do it to get sympathy because they NEED sympathy because they need to feel loved and safe from abandonment and they just really want someone to understand what they are going through inside their head.
Also remember there are other "personality disorders" as well but a person who is sanist is the scariest one because they feel nothing for people except the ones who are like them.
. Once you know WHY they do what they do, you will feel empathy for someone with BPD but hate and fear someone who thinks they are better than others simply because they are sane.
Although people who may "have" BPD and HPD do these things, remember, this page is about sanist abuse towards others, especially those who have BPD or HPD and even Dependent personality disorder.Although textbooks may state people who have BPD use these tactics to control their partners, I believe people who suffer from BPD more than I do a text book. Elists do these tactics to regain control and power because THEY deserve it while people with eccentric personalities are scared to be abandoned and alone. I have sympathy for people with BPD, but none for people who are elitists thinking they are better than others. People who have NPD are the ones with no empathy and no sympathy, not people with BPD.
Example: Self harm
An elitist will do it to get power over the victim because they enjoy it. they like knowing they can control the person's behavior by making the person feel sorry for them. They play the victim and by doing so get symapthy and attention and control THEY "deserve."
A BPD suffer may self harm to try to make the person feel sorry for them so that person will not leave. They need to have control like the narcissist except it is because they are afraid of the person leaving them,or not loving them anymore. They may do it to get sympathy because they NEED sympathy because they need to feel loved and safe from abandonment and they just really want someone to understand what they are going through inside their head.
Also remember there are other "personality disorders" as well but a person who is sanist is the scariest one because they feel nothing for people except the ones who are like them.
. Once you know WHY they do what they do, you will feel empathy for someone with BPD but hate and fear someone who thinks they are better than others simply because they are sane.